My friends from back home are great. They're the ones who have helped shape me to who I am and change me. They've been there through tough times and really great times. But it's the worst when you lose a friendship that you've invested not only time, I'm talking years wait almost a decade, but your heart as well. When I was little in kindergarten there was the troublesome three. It was Johnny, Mike, and I. I was one of the guys and it was constantly who was going to bike to whose house to play basketball, NFL blitz you name it. We even at one point calculated the best route to each house. Being that I was only 5 blocks away from both Mike and Johnny and the center point, it was usually my house we would end up at. We even got the hanging out timed for when we were in middle school and in many activities. Wednesday being the church day we didn't have any activities, the guys would get off the bus at my house and we'd play NFL blitz until we'd have to go to whatever church function was going on that night. It moved on into high school although we actually had a few bumps we at least tried to stay in contact. Johnny and Mike didn't hang out as much but I was still friends with both of them. Mike ran in to a tough situation around his senior year and being that we were best friends he ended up moving into my house. It was great like a slumber party every night and he moved up from the friend status to the brother status. He was someone who I depended on and counted on. For some reason there was a falling out and ending up being some very hard dislike towards each other. It sucked big time especially when it was the year in school that was supposed to be the best.
Fast forward to now. I've been thinking about writing to Mike for awhile now trying to just mend what was broken and make things better. Well for some reason something would stop me. But after doing a lot of soul searching and thinking about it I decided to send him a message. Just having closure and not expecting anything more. But for some reason life decided to have a message sent back. My thoughts on the friendship we had were confirmed. Knowing that you were there for someone and the one they counted on is great. Hearing an apology for the hurt and pain makes it better. Mike said it best, "We definately were really good friends and its too bad things ended the way they did. You don't need to appologize though. I don't think it was either of our faults. We both just forgot how to forgive." It brings a smile to my face just thinking about the rebuilding of a lost friendship with Mike. I may have missed out on 4 years of his life but who says you can't start it back up. I have a feeling this is going to be a good thing.
How to forgive, something I wouldn't have even considered. Maybe there needs to be more forgiveness in the world, I think it would be the one thing that could make the world a better place. I know it would help not only me but many other people out with their stresses and problems in life. I know it's hard to right away but once you give it a little time and forgive you're able to move on from the hurt and the pain. So starting right now I'm going to work on forgiving people for not only my faults but also theirs. Consider it my campaign for forgiveness.
Alright back to the family love next time, and Jay wants YOU to be ready for the action!
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